|BRIDGES: A Center for Grieving Children|
CHILDREN AND GRIEF
Brown and Brown, When Dinosaurs Die, Little Brown & Co., 1996.
Explains in simple language the feelings people may have regarding the death of a loved one and the ways to honor the memory of someone who has died.
Fox, Mem, Tough Boris, Harcourt Brace, 1994.
Boris von der Borch is a mean, greedy old pirate—tough as nails, through and through, like all pirates. Or is he? When a young boy sneaks onto Boris’s ship, he discovers that even pirates cry. And so does he.
Silberberg, Alan, Milo, Aladdin, 2010.
12 year old Milo's mother died and he is left trying to make sense of something that doesn't make sense. His father doesn't know how to talk to him and his older sister is doing her own thing. Milo is struggling through middle school trying to make friends and fit in. He is also searching for a way to remember his mother, but is having a difficult time particularly since his father quickly removed from the house everything associated with his mother. Through words and drawings this book creatively depicts two important needs of children who are grieving: tangible ways to remember and people who take time to listen and care.
TEENS AND GRIEF
Fitzgerald, Helen, The Grieving Teen, Simon and Schuster, 2000.
Although the circumstances surrounding a death are difficult to handle at any age, adolescence brings with it challenges and struggles that until now have been largely overlooked. But in this unique and compassionate guide, renowned grief counselor Helen Fitzgerald turns her attention to the special needs of adolescents struggling with loss and gives them the tools they need to work through their pain and grief.
Hipp, Earl, Help for the Tough Times, Hazelden, 1995.
A guide that helps teens understand how they experience grief and loss, how our culture in general doesn't often acknowledge their losses or give them tools to grieve, and how they can keep their loss from overflowing.
Kuhlman, Evan, The Last Invisible Boy, 2008
Pre-adolescent Finn Garrett is turning invisible following the death of his father. Through the 235 pages of his book, author Evan Kuhlman describes Finn's journey toward deciding whether to keep becoming invisible or to choose visibility again. Kuhlman depicts this through journal entries, drawings, and lists that are sure to capture 10-14 year old children who have experienced loss. This book clearly illustrates some of the challenges children experience in the aftermath of a death.
HELPING CHILDREN WHO ARE GRIEVING
Doka, Kenneth, Children Mourning, Mourning Children. HO Foundation of America, 1995.
This book explores three basic themes in children's grief. Firstly, it maintains that children are always developing; therefore their understanding of death and their reactions to illness and loss are also multifaceted and constantly undergoing change. Secondly, children grieve in ways that are both different from and similar to adults. While they may need different therapeutic approaches from their elders, each loss is different and the grief experience will be affected by many of the same factors that affect adults. Thirdly, it holds that they need significant support as they grieve.
ADULTS AND GRIEF
Deits, Bob, Life After Loss, Fisher Books, 2000.
With practical and compassionate advice, personal stories, and helpful exercises, Life after Loss is not just about understanding grief-it's about doing something about it. Wise and universal, Life after Loss is a classic in the field of grief recovery.
Ellis, Thomas M., This Thing Called Grief: New Understanding of Loss, Syren Book Company, 2006.
This Thing Called Grief shows that although grief and pain may be changing you now, they have the potential to transform your life in a healing way. Ellis uses many real-life narratives of loss from his therapy practice to help illustrate various ways of grieving, and shows how you can learn from the experience of loss and make your way towards a place of healing transitions and a renewed sense of life.