The Pregnant OB Part 7: The good moments
I feel like I have written a lot about the sad things that can happen in pregnancy, mostly because those are the things that scare me the most, and they certainly stick out in my mind. However, the reason I became an OB/Gyn to begin with is not for the sad things we have to deal with, but for the extreme amount of joy that we have the honor of sharing with moms and families.
And now I get to experience that joy in my own life, as a first-time mom.
I recently received a card from a patient I took care of several years ago during her miscarriage. Her card included a picture of her new family, holding a newborn baby. She wrote “Thank you for being there for us in one of our darkest moments. I thought you might like to see what the good moments look like.”
She's absolutely right. Even though I see a lot of sad things happen, there is an even greater amount of “good moments” that I get to be a part of as an Obstetrician. Her reminder touched me.
As an OB, I get to be the first one to say “congratulations!” when we see the first heart flicker on ultrasound. And now, I know what it feels like to realize that there's life growing in my own uterus.
I get to counsel my patients about important lifestyle changes that can improve the outcome of their pregnancies and help keep their babies healthy in the womb. And now I realize what a privilege it is to be able to modify the environment that my baby grows in.
As the obstetrician, I get to advise my patients about safe methods of delivery, taking into account each patient's past history. And now, I get to look forward to that life changing moment in my own life.
I get to stand alongside my patients as they push, encouraging them every step of the way, in one of the hardest physical activities they may ever accomplish. And in a few months, I'll be the one receiving that encouragement from my doctor and nurse.
I have the extreme privilege of being the first person to hold the new life that is brought into the world. And now, looking forward to my own child being born, that moment has a whole new meaning for me.
Pregnancy can have some highs and lows, and each and every pregnancy is different. But thankfully, most of the time the highs far outweigh the lows. My pregnancy has so far been a joyous one, full of excitement and anticipation for our new child we can't wait to meet. And I'm grateful to be able to have a new level of understanding of the joy that my patients’ experience, a joy that — until now — I’ve only shared from the outside.
More in this series
The Pregnant OB Part 1: How to find the right doctor
The Pregnant OB Part 2: First kicks
The Pregnant OB Part 3: Holding my breath
The Pregnant OB Part 4: Baby on board, will travel
The Pregnant OB Part 5: The 20-week ultrasound
The Pregnant OB Part 6: I can see my baby